Can you answer the question, what do I really want?
We wake up every morning and pretty much follow the same routine without much thought given to it. We do the same thing week after week and then something may happen to wake us up and we will start to wonder, isn’t there something more? And this will lead to the question of what do I really want?
At this point, if you were asked what you really want, what would your answer be? For most people it would involve money. But, it’s not money we want, it’s what money can buy. But there is more to it.
I’m not even talking about a new car or a new house. Yes, we may want those things but what we really want is to be happy and for us to be truly happy we need to find what makes us come alive so to speak? What makes us feel like we can take on anything? What makes us feel whole? That is the something I am talking about.
Once we figure this out, then accomplishing our dreams becomes so much clearer.
Figuring this out is the hard part as our minds are so complex and we have egos that get in our way. Our egos can make us look at things differently than they actually are.
Lets say there is a job opening at a company and the pay is better than what you are currently making. But, the job is not exactly what you want. Now your ego will make you think about the money first and try to convince us that we can do the job and be happy.
This may all be true, however, how long will it be before the job is making you wish for another job? If we knew what we really wanted then we would of not taken the job and we would be looking for the right job for us.
A job is just a job unless it fulfills what you truly want. And until we know what that is we will keep searching or we will just settle.
It is usually when people have something happen in their lives, such as having cancer or being in a near death situation that they really start to get to know who they really are. And from there they start to figure out what they really want.
This happens because all of a sudden all the things that used to matter, no longer do. Basically the person has just accepted what is and surrendered to it all. So the ego no longer has a place. And now that person can be who they truly are. And from there finding what you truly want is easy.
So why does it take something like that to happen before we can find our answers? Why can’t we just accept things and surrender to it all? Do we really need our egos that bad? The problem is we think we do.
We think that if we accept things as they are and surrender to it all then we are giving up our power. Like people will walk all over us. Actually, the opposite is true. When we realize what we don’t need, we all of a sudden start to know who we are and what we truly believe. And because we know, we have just become stronger.
The best way to get started is to look at your life in different areas. Break it into sections, like my job, my relationship with my wife, with my kids, my money, and so on. Then take one section at a time and really look at it.
Lets take your job. If you are unhappy with your job, ask yourself why you are unhappy. What would make me love my job? As you ask questions like that in all areas of your life, you will start to learn more about yourself.
It’s important to ask yourself , what do I really want? Then wait for the answer… It will come.
It is important that you accept things as they are. When you are going over your job. Just accept everything. It doesn’t mean you like it. Just that it is the way it is and you accept that.
Just keep accepting everything, until there is nothing left to accept.
Now you will need to surrender to it all. by surrendering you are basically telling your ego to get out of your way.
You no longer need your ego reminding you that you took the wrong job or that you are not making enough money or anything else it wants you to think about.
You will now be free to figure out what you truly want.
I will tell you that this does not happen overnight. It takes time to really know who you are and then more time to find out what you truly want.
However, I can tell you that the benefits to knowing are amazing.
Once you can answer , what do I really want and that answer makes you light up, from there you will know if something is right for you.
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