What Do I Really Want

By | February 25, 2016

Can you answer the question, what do I really want?

We wake up every morning and pretty much follow the same routine without much thought given to it. We do the same thing week after week and then something may happen to wake us up and we will start to wonder, isn’t there something more? And this will lead to the question of what do I what do i really wantreally want?

At this point, if you were asked what you really want, what would your answer be? For most people it would involve money. But, it’s not money we want, it’s what money can buy. But there is more to it.

I’m not even talking about a new car or a new house. Yes, we may want those things but what we really want is to be happy and for us to be truly happy we need to find what makes us come alive so to speak? What makes us feel like we can take on anything? What makes us feel whole? That is the something I am talking about.

Once we figure this out, then accomplishing our dreams becomes so much clearer.

Figuring this out is the hard part as our minds are so complex and we have egos that get in our way. Our egos can make us look at things differently than they actually are.

Lets say there is a job opening at a company and the pay is better than what you are currently making. But, the job is not exactly what you want. Now your ego will make you think about the money first and try to convince us that we can do the job and be happy.

This may all be true, however, how long will it be before the job is making you wish for another job? If we knew what we really wanted then we would of not taken the job and we would be looking for the right job for us.

A job is just a job unless it fulfills what you truly want. And until we know what that is we will keep searching or we will just settle.

It is usually when people have something happen in their lives, such as having cancer or being in a near death situation that they really start to get to know who they really are. And from there they start to figure out what they really want.

This happens because all of a sudden all the things that used to matter, no longer do. Basically the person has just accepted what is and surrendered to it all. So the ego no longer has a place. And what do I really wantnow that person can be who they truly are. And from there finding what you truly want is easy.

So why does it take something like that to happen before we can find our answers? Why can’t we just accept things and surrender to it all? Do we really need our egos that bad? The problem is we think we do.

We think that if we accept things as they are and surrender to it all then we are giving up our power. Like people will walk all over us. Actually, the opposite is true. When we realize what we don’t need, we all of a sudden start to know who we are and what we truly believe. And because we know, we have just become stronger.

The best way to get started is to look at your life in different areas. Break it into sections, like my job, my relationship with my wife, with my kids, my money,  and so on. Then take one section at a time and really look at it.

Lets take your job. If you are unhappy with your job, ask yourself why you are unhappy. What would make me love my job? As you ask questions like that in all areas of your life, you will start to learn more about yourself.

It’s important to ask yourself , what do I really want? Then wait for the answer… It will come.

It is important that you accept things as they are. When you are going over your job. Just accept everything. It doesn’t mean you like it. Just that it is the way it is and you accept that.

Just keep accepting everything, until there is nothing left to accept.

Now you will need to surrender to it all. by surrendering you are basically telling your ego to get out of your way.

You no longer need your ego reminding you that you took the wrong job or that you are not making enough money or anything else it wants you to think about.

You will now be free to figure out what you truly want.

I will tell you that this does not happen overnight. It takes time to really know who you are and then more time to find out what you truly want.

However, I can tell you that the benefits to knowing are amazing.

Once you can answer , what do I really want and that answer makes you light up, from there you will know if something is right for you.

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16 thoughts on “What Do I Really Want

  1. Pitin

    Took me 11 years to figure out what kind of “job” I truly want. Surprisingly, it is not even connected to my fulltime job. I agree – it doesn’t happen overnight. If you are lucky enough to know of what you want faster than it took me, by all means embrace it. That is when the magic happens. 🙂

    1. Gloria

      Hi Pitin,

      Thanks for the comment. I am glad you were able to figure out the job that you truly wanted. 11 Years is a long time, but you did it! Congrats to you! The methods that I describe in this article should help people find what they want by examining their inner selves.

  2. Matthew

    I am a firm believer of the law of attraction, I really like what you have written and is very enlightening

    We need more websites like your especially with articles like this, thankfully i work at home and enjoy what i do but for many others this is not the case and they would do well reading this.

    Keep spreading the positive information, well done!

  3. Matthew

    I am a firm believer of the law of attraction, I really like what you have written and is very enlightening

    We need more websites like your especially with articles like this, thankfully i work at home and enjoy what i do but for many others this is not the case and they would do well reading this.

    Keep spreading the positive information, well done!

    1. Gloria

      Hi Matthew,

      Thank you for commenting. I am glad to hear you have a job you enjoy. I wrote the article in hopes of waking up people to realize that they don’t have to settle for where they are at. Part of the problem too is that people read an article like this, get all excited and then do nothing to change their situation.

    2. Gloria

      Hi Matthew,

      Thank you for commenting. I am glad to hear you have a job you enjoy. I wrote the article in hopes of waking up people to realize that they don’t have to settle for where they are at. Part of the problem too is that people read an article like this, get all excited and then do nothing to change their situation.

  4. Torrey

    I was once on the phone with a guy talking about a job that I really wanted. I told him that the hardest part about the job was finding the money to pay for the training. To which this guy replied: No, the hardest part is actually making up your mind that you’re going to do it. Once you’ve got that behind you. Your own brain will figure out how to find the money.
    That piece of advice has proven to be invaluable for me !! Torrey

    1. Gloria

      Hi Torrey,

      I’m glad you listened to that advice. We all get caught up in the why we can’t do something, rather then how can I make this happen. It’s like our ego automatically steps in and gives us reasons why we can’t . If we learn to ask ourselves questions then can get beyond our ego and accomplish great things.

  5. Laurie

    This post is a great reminder to pause from our regular routine and take stock of things. If we’re not happy, then it’s time to do some soul searching to find our passion and purpose. Sometimes it’s not so easy to pinpoint our desired destination, but choosing the general direction is a start. I agree that we have to clear away the clutter of our ego to really follow our heart.

    1. Gloria

      Thank you for your comment. You are so right. If more people would try to figure out what makes themselves happy they could enjoy their life so much more.

  6. JeffWA

    Hi Gloria,
    There were some very interesting points that you brought up in your well written article.

    It’s true that many people feel the need to have money. However intellectually cannot tell you why – other than the fact they believe money can buy them more material things. But in fact would these things, (clothes, shoes, fancy new appliances for a house, etc.) really make them any happier than they already are regarding their life as a whole?

    As you stated, so many human beings in today’s fast-paced world get overwhelmed with things in life that truly are not essential.

    We clutter our minds with excess thoughts, (really junk) that serve to create needless anxiety and stress which if untreated can lead to serious health problems.

    I once read a book called “Don’t sweat the small stuff”. Written over 20 years go, this book would be perfect reading for so many people in the world today who can’t answer the question you posed in the title of your great article “What Do I Really Want”?

    You could add a subtitle to the article by also asking “Would what I want really to be of important value in my life”? Right now too many people in today’s world would be clueless in answering that question.

    A great article Gloria. Many people in this world in my opinion need to read what you had to say in the article!

    Sincerely,
    Jeff

    1. Gloria

      Thank you for your comment Jeff. It is so well put. I think you are so right that the average person could not answer your question.

  7. DanielHauge

    Finding something you love doing so soo crucial for a happy life. You’re absolutely right about the fact that we do everything we do by routine without even thinking about. Overall very nice post. It’s very detailed and thorough explained. I am definitely gonna bookmark this and maybe even show it to a few friends 🙂

    1. Gloria

      Thanks Daniell,

      I appreciate your comment and I would appreciate you sending friends my way.

  8. jessie palaypay

    I totally agree with you that its not money that we want but rather what it can get us.

    I love how you mention that our egos get in the way a lot of times. I find it funny when i ask people why they are looking for a new job. They usually tell me that they want a new “challenge”. While sometimes that can be true, I feel like usually deep down, the new job has more money in it. They just don’t want to admit it outwardly.

    What are your thoughts on this? This is just my perception of things

    jessie

    1. Gloria

      Hi Jessie,

      Most times money can be a great motivator to get a new job. However, when we want more money what we really want is what the more money can get us. Someone saying they want a new challenge is a person who wants to expand themselves. I understand what you are saying. But remember that most people hide behind a mask and never truly reveal themselves for fear of not being accepted.

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