By the time you are done reading this you will know how to stop doubting yourself
Lets look at why we doubt ourselves. Now imagine that there is this boy , Tommy who is nine years old. He joins the basketball team and he has a hard time learning to dribble the ball , but he finally learns. Now at the end of a game his coach puts him in and he gets the ball passed to him and he freezes because he is scared to dribble the ball. Later, after the game two of his team mates pick on him for just standing there with the ball.
Now comes baseball season and Tommy is having trouble hitting the ball, he knows that if this happens in a game , he will be picked on , just like in basketball. This is where Tommy starts to doubt himself. His confidence in his ability to play sports is no longer there.
And if someone doesn’t help him overcome this than the next new thing he wants to try, he may not because his self doubt may stop him.
It reminds me of my grand daughter, who is great at riding horses. She was bucked off her horse and because she did not get back on that horse or another one for a while, she became scared to ride.
Even though she was a good rider, she no longer felt that way anymore. And when she did finally get back on a horse she was not the same rider. Her confidence was gone. She now doubted her riding ability. I had to work with her for quite a while before she stopped being scared and just relaxed again.
Those of course are just a few examples of how self doubt can start. But once it is started it can carry over into different areas of our lives.
So how do we stop it?
Well, we have to pay attention to when it happens and then ask ourselves some questions like – what am I afraid of? Am I afraid of someone seeing me make a mistake or be wrong about something or just fail at something? Then ask, what is the worst thing that could happen?
At this point we are just trying to find some answers to why we are doubting ourselves. Once you figure out what area or areas your confidence is lacking in you will be able to start fixing it.
Next, look at the areas you need to build confidence in and find some small thing in that area that you doubt you can do and work on it until you succeed. It is best to do this when you are alone so you don’t feel like you are being judged.
Then pick another small thing and accomplish that too. Continue this with other stuff. As you gain more confidence in yourself, you will doubt yourself less and less.
Make sure when you do this, you start with small things that you only doubt a little and work your way up to the bigger things that you doubt about yourself.
When you are there, you will feel like a new person and you will be ready to tackle things that you have always wanted to do, but lacked the confidence to do them.
But always remember one thing, Mistakes are just a way of life. They are there for us to learn from.
So the next time something happens that would normally attack your confidence, look at it differently and ask yourself, what is this trying to teach me? Or what can I learn from this?
A person who has confidence can accomplish so much just because they know they can, so stop doubting yourself and start doing what you desire to do.
There will always be things that we are good at and things that we aren’t so good at. It is just the way life is. If you accept yourself for who you really are, you will find confidence that you never knew you had.
“If we all did the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves.” Thomas Alva Edison
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