How To Be Happy In Life
If you really want to know how to be happy in life then what I am about to say may or may not make any sense to you just yet. So are you ready. Happiness is a choice. Now try not to judge what I just said. Read on with an open mind.
So how do you choose to be happy? The words I choose to be happy have great power when they are said with meaning. In other words really feel it when you say I choose to be happy.
It all starts with being able to control your thoughts. When we have good thoughts going on in our minds and we have a direction so we know where we are headed, then we are happy.
True happiness is never found on the outside. It has to come from within.
Think about it this way. When we look for happiness on the outside , we try to fill a void with material things or even humans. We may think we need a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife to feel whole.
We may tell ourselves, if I had a car I would be happy. Or a new outfit or whatever we feel we want would make us happy. Sure, those things do make us happy on the outside, but for how long? How long is it before we want more to make us feel good?
We become happy for a while because we are now telling ourselves good things about what we just bought. However. before too long we go back to the same negative thoughts we had and so once again, we feel unhappy.
So you see the problem is not on the outside. The problem is our own thoughts.
So how do we change our thoughts so we can learn to be happy in life? We have to start being able to hear those thoughts. The only way to can do that, is to be more aware. So you need to train yourself to hear your thoughts.
You start by recognizing that they are there. Okay, so are you ready? Close your eyes and think of a really good memory of yours. Now relive that memory, as if it was happening right now. Go ahead try to do it right now.
Did you hear your thoughts? Did they try to stop you from reliving that good memory? Your mind has thoughts like this all day long. Now if these thoughts were good thoughts, you would be happy.
One way you can tell what kind of thoughts are going on in your head is by the mood you are in. When you catch yourself in a less than good mood, go inside your head and relive a good memory.
Don’t worry if this is hard to do. For some people it will be. Just keep doing it and it will become easier.
If you do this often enough, you will find that you will start to become aware of your thoughts as they are happening.
Once you are aware of your thoughts, you can start to change them. At first just observe them. Make no judgement , just observe. Listen to what negative stuff is being said.
You will soon see how this negative talk in your head is affecting you.
Now it is time to change those negative thoughts to more positive ones and a lot more positive if you can. If you hear a thought such as, You always do the wrong thing. Say yes, I have made some wrong choices , but now I am making good choices. Then say, from now on I will make good choices.
If you do this often enough, you will start to change your thought patterns to a lot more positive and you will feel better on the outside.
The more you do this the happier you will become. This is how to be happy in life.
The next step would be learning how to quiet your mind. When you are ready to do this , go to my page How to quiet the mind.
There are other ways to change your thought pattern too. Hypnosis or meditation work well also. It just depends on how you want to approach it.
You will know you are headed in the right direction when you start to feel happier.
So now you know how to be happy in life.