Are Mistakes Good ? Are They There To Teach Us Something?
When we think about mistakes, most of us think that we need to avoid them. But are mistakes good? Could our mistakes be trying to teach us something? Could it be that we just grew up thinking mistakes were bad?
What if we started looking at mistakes in a different way?
When I was growing up, we were taught to look at mistakes as being bad. Maybe no one ever said that to us, but the message was there.
I remember plenty of times in school where someone would get an answer wrong and the whole class would laugh. That was a clear sign that mistakes should be avoided. I’m sure the kid that it happened to decided that he would never offer an answer again in front of the class unless he was sure that it was correct.
If similar things happened to that boy over and over then I’m sure that he feels bad making mistakes still , even though he is a grown up. Things like this happened to a lot of us when we were growing up and so the belief of many people is that mistakes are something we try to avoid.
But what if we started looking at our mistakes in a different way. What if we decided that mistakes teach us something and rather than beating ourselves up, we ask ourselves questions? Questions like, what is this trying to teach me? Or what am I supposed to be learning from this?
Maybe if we see mistakes as our teachers, we would feel differently about making them. Rather than not doing something because we feel we may make a mistake and feel bad , we would go ahead and do it because even if we made a mistake, it would be teaching us something. Perhaps it would show us something we hadn’t even thought of.
You see mistakes don’t have to be thought of as something to dread or make us feel bad. If we learn to look at them as a way to grow, then they no longer hold us back. They actually become a good thing because each one can teach us something new.
Also, if your not worried about making a mistake, then you may find that you really were worried about nothing all along. It was just the fear of making a mistake that held you back.
Think about all the times that you were held back for fear of making a mistake. But wait, maybe you did make a mistake, maybe you missed an opportunity of some kind.
The biggest problem is that even though we can now understand why we feel mistakes are bad, and we can even look at them differently, our feelings will not have changed. they are part of our limiting beliefs. They are basically part of who we are. Our subconscious mind believes that making mistakes are bad. So those beliefs must go or they will just be holding us back.
In order to remove them, we need to be able to look back on our childhood and try to remember when somethings may have happened to make us believe this.
We then need to relive some of those moments and realize that the mistakes we made were not bad , it was the way we all were taught to look at them. As you look at what some of the mistakes taught you , you can ask yourself , are mistakes good and feel what your response is.
When that belief is gone, you will no longer have a reaction to that question.
There is nothing bad about getting an answer wrong. There is nothing bad about trying something and making a mistake along the way.
When we no longer worry about making a mistake and when we can say , Okay, I made a mistake. Now I have a great learning opportunity. We will know they are there to help us.
We just need to start looking for the lesson that is being taught. This maybe hard to see at first, but with practice, it will become easier.
There maybe times when you just can’t figure it out. At those times, just accept that you can’t figure it out and somewhere down the road it will become clear to you.
Once you start to see that making mistakes are just part of learning and that they are not bad, you will see lots of things differently.
So I will leave you with the question , are mistakes good?
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